Occupy your Dining Room: Hosting the Revolution

The Occupy Wall Street movement has been criticized for its lack of clear demands.  But I think it's far too early in the movement for demands.  And I think there's another way forward.   

Charles Eisenstein has helped us see that no demand is big enough.  "How do we issue demands," he writes, "when what we really want is nothing less than the more beautiful world our hearts tell us is possible?"  The idea of issuing demands also creates a divided, oppositional dynamic of one group making demands of another.  We already see a dynamic of blame and attack against "the 1%", to which the knee-jerk response is most likely to be defensiveness and resistance.  What is worse, this approach doesn't encourage us to address our own responsibility for creating the mess we're in - and for getting out of it.  We all need to change our thinking and our actions if we want to evolve the system that we create together.   

Instead of blame and attack, then, what if we gathered around powerful questions? Questions that have the power to engage all of us and to ignite our collective imagination?  Yesterday, I came across a great list of questions from Peter Block (the master of powerful questions): 

* What do we want to create together?

* What's our contribution to the thing we complain most about?

* What do we say yes to that we really don't mean?

* What do we want to say no to that we don't have the courage to?

* What's the promise we're willing to make with no expectation of return?

* What are the gifts we hold that we neither fully acknowledge nor have fully brought into the world?

To me, it comes down to the questions: What do we value? How does our current system run counter to those values?  And how can we create an economic system that nurtures what we hold dear?

And still, questions alone aren't enough.  They need a container, a rich forum in which we can explore them together. 

Earlier this year, my friend Walt Roberts of Changing the Game developed a program to support "Living Room Conversations" across the United States; the topic of the conversations was bridging the gap between liberal and conservative politics.  Another friend, Paul Shore, developed a series of "Kitchen Table Talks" for the People's Food Policy Project.  In each of these two cases, self-organizing hosts were provided with a comprehensive conversation guide, along with other helpful support (e.g., invitations, tips on facilitating conversation).  And there was an online forum in which highlights of the conversations could be shared and major themes identified.  In the case of the Kitchen Table Talks, those major themes were then presented to governing bodies.  But the most important outcome of the conversations was the expanded awareness and engagement of the thousands of people who participated.

What if such a format were developed for the Occupy Wall Street movement?  What if thousands of us brought the movement into our homes, inviting people we know to come for a potluck dinner and a targeted conversation (or likely a series of them) to explore our assumptions, our dreams, and our actions?  It seems that we're going to need to make some pretty dramatic changes, and that'll be much easier with a support group in place.  And what if our voices could be gathered together in an online forum, not (yet) as demands but as a collective journal documenting a fundamental shift in thinking and behavior?  And isn't rebuilding community (partly through our relationship with food) one of the keystones of the movement, anyway?  

Walt and Paul (and anyone else!), are you interested?  I'll bring a big pot of vegetarian chili.

YES YES YES!!!! I totally concur with the vision of massively distributed (and often small-scale) face-to-face gatherings inspired by the movement. I see the heart of OWS as a conversation, or an inquiry, not an organ for issuing demands. You can read more of my views on that here: http://www.occupycafe.org/group/meet-and-greet/forum/topics/what-draws-y.... And from what I could glean when I visited OWS on Friday, that sentiment is widely shared there.

SO... As you know, I am co-creating Occupy Cafe (www.OccupyCafe.org) to offer dynamic virtual space for this conversation/inquiry to spread, rooted in powerful questions like Peter Blocks (LOVE HIM!) above. In addition to our interactive phone calls and online network, I DO envision a face-to-face component emerging. Virtual is very powerful, and it is way more so when it integrates with f2f. This movement is a perfect example--it doesn't exist without the power of the internet to connect people, but its heart beats on the ground.

The "living room" idea seems very workable to me. One way we could try it out would be to invite people to convene small groups to participate together in Occupy Cafe calls. When we go to breakouts, they can do one themselves. Or they can all stay in the "main room" for the large group dialogue with that hour's special guest "conversation starter" (btw, will you be one of our guests sometime soon, please?).

This is all so VERY EXCITING! I will cross post this to the Occupy Cafe Forum where you mentioned this blog as well (http://www.occupycafe.org/forum/topics/what-core-conversations-would-you...?)

Thanks for your energy and brilliance, Michelle!

Thank you, Michelle. The mealtime conversations are among the valuable ways to discover and acknowledge viewpoints, verbally focused, normally without physical reference to books, or the web. No agenda, no minutes, no todo list. Simple conversation with special people.

In case more references are welcome, here today's compilation of mine. Engaged Economy

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for opening up this space again. Moving right along the awakening path, lets acknowledge and affirm a fundamental "shift" is needed and appears to be inching forward and perhaps very quickly. Lets consider a timely advance from "occupy" to "inhabit". Then from
inhabit or re-inhabit, our planet or spaceship, to Mother Earth and Home. Then we can begin to open up economy as integrity of and rights of Mother Earth, as primary and what humans do as derivative of her well being. Then we could begin to conceptualize "becoming native to place"and indigenous right livelihood(s) as (a) fresh and ancient place for conversation, healing and regenerative action...given the urgency for humans. It is very late....time to rest. For a rich primer source for this kind of conversation see: Global Alliance For the Rights of Nature....

Blessings All,

Richard Hogan

I am in. I live over in Geneva Switzerland and we have already started having discussions in bar's here. This is not just a Wall street thing, this is a worldwide discontentment. Thank you for your constructive comments questions and putting this out to others.

Yes....and then, what if the best of each series of conversations were carried to a meeting where those were share and the best of those ideas (or maybe all of them...but, there would likely be duplication) and those were taken to a meeting and so on until there was one huge convergence of people and wisdom as to what all those in every gathering believed was "the way to" create a new way of being together. If the ideas of thousands of meetings were carried into the circle....I truly believe the President would come to listen. This would be true democracy at work...and the Art of Hosting trained people are the ones to do it. I once met a woman named Amy...who said she had a dream where AoH practitioners began from where they live and all walked to center. When she told me her dream, I said....I have the physical space near the center of the United States where this can happen. The offer still stands. I would be willing to host this event in terms of physical space...if the people want to do it.

Sending Love and Blessings to you and to this.

Susan

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